You put up a facade that may trick the outside world, but inside you feel hopeless.
You continually tell yourself:
“I am okay”
“I can manage."
“I can adjust”
“I just need to get this done first”
“I can handle whatever comes my way”
What if this isn’t true?
What if your life isn’t what you want it to be?
What if you are scared and you don’t know what to do?
What if your feelings are meant to be felt and not pushed away?
I get it.
I do this all the time.
I want to be seen as strong and capable.
Not a weak or helpless version of myself.
So I put up a facade in hopes that others will see confidence.
My facade may trick the outside world, but at the core I feel helpless.
I feel weak.
I doubt my abilities.
Inside I don’t feel confident at all.
I feel insecure.
I intentionally chose the word “feel”.
I did not say “am”.
My identity is not determined by my feelings.
I often let it be the case.
But that is me giving my power away to my feelings.
My feelings are in control.
I am not in this case.
I don’t want to live this way though.
I feel alone, tired, and overwhelmed.
I am stuck when I do this.
Stuck in survival mode.
That isn’t the way I want to live my life.
Yet, I question, can things really change?
Here is the truth.
Change is possible.
But, in order for that to happen, I must stop tricking myself.
I must get real with my feelings.
I must admit how I am truly feeling.
Recognizing the reality that I am not what I feel.
And also, that my feelings won’t destroy me.
(At the core, this is the belief that keeps me stuck letting my feelings control me).
So I challenge you now, be honest with yourself.
How are you truly feeling at this moment?
Speak the truth.
If you need some help follow this prompt:
“I feel ________.”
Also tell yourself this:
“I feel ______, but I am not __________ (that same feeling).”
Hey, I recognize that this is way easier said than done.
That’s why I am here to help and support you if you need it.
If you are wanting that right now, set up a FREE 30 minute Connection Call with me. We will talk about your current challenges and see if we are a good fit for each other. If you want support, I want to help you get that!